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title: "I take it as a man's duty to restrain himself. — Lois McMaster Bujold Quote #83 | QuotesBy.net"
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> # I take it as a man's duty to restrain himself.

[Lois McMaster Bujold](https://quotesby.net/Lois-McMaster-Bujold)\#83

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## About this quote

What does it mean?A man should practice self‑restraint as a duty.In plain termsSelf‑control is a responsibility.What can you take from it?Exercise discipline.

### Where it applies

- temptations
- personal growth

### Putting it to work

- set personal limits

### Questions to consider

- What are the limits of self‑restraint?
- When is flexibility better?

### Another view

Strict restraint can suppress healthy expression.

## More from Lois McMaster Bujold

1. > A good friend of my son's is a son to me.

[Permalink to quote \#82](https://quotesby.net/Lois-McMaster-Bujold/82/ "Permalink to quote 82")
2. > Some men just aren't cut out for paternity. Better they should realize it before and not after they become responsible for a son.

[Permalink to quote \#84](https://quotesby.net/Lois-McMaster-Bujold/84/ "Permalink to quote 84")
3. > The dead cannot cry out for justice; it is a duty of the living to do so for them.

[Permalink to quote \#81](https://quotesby.net/Lois-McMaster-Bujold/81/ "Permalink to quote 81")

## Related quotes

1. > Self-reverence, self-knowledge, self-control, These three alone lead life to sovereign power. Yet not for power (power of herself Would come uncall'd for) but …

[Alfred (Lord) Tennyson](https://quotesby.net/Alfred-(Lord)-Tennyson)[Alfred (Lord) Tennyson quote \#8](https://quotesby.net/Alfred-(Lord)-Tennyson/8/ "Permalink to quote 8")
2. > That virtue which requires to be ever guarded is scarce worth the sentinel.

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3. > Absolute liberty is absence of restraint; responsibility is restraint; therefore, the ideally free individual is responsible to himself.

[Henry Adams](https://quotesby.net/Henry-Adams)[Henry Adams quote \#33](https://quotesby.net/Henry-Adams/33/ "Permalink to quote 33")

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