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Dear Madam, I have been shown in the files of the War Department a statement of the Adjutant-General of Massachusetts, that you are the mother of five sons who have died gloriously on the field of battle. I feel how weak and fruitless must be any words of mine which should attempt to beguile you from the grief of a loss so overwhelming. But I cannot refrain from tendering to you the consolation that may be found in the thanks of the Republic they died to save. I pray that our Heavenly Father may assuage the anguish of your bereavement, and leave you only the cherished memory of the loved and lost, and the solemn pride that must be yours, to have laid so costly a sacrifice upon the altar of Freedom. Yours, very sincerely and respectfully, Abraham Lincoln

Abraham Lincoln#46

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Lincoln writes to a mother who lost five sons in war, acknowledging that words cannot heal her grief but offering pride in their sacrifice.
In plain terms
He tells a grieving mother that while words fail, her sons died to save the Republic.
What can you take from it?
Sacrifice for a greater cause brings solemn pride amidst grief.

Where it applies

  • bereavement
  • military funerals
  • national crises

Putting it to work

  • offering condolence
  • honoring fallen
  • acknowledging sacrifice

Questions to consider

  • How do we find meaning in tragic loss?
  • What consolation exists for overwhelming grief?

Another view

National pride does not truly alleviate personal loss.

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