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Success, instead of giving freedom of choice, becomes a way of life. There's no country I've been to where people, when you come into a room and sit down with them, so often ask you, 'What do you do?' And, being American, many's the time I've almost asked that question, then realized it's good for my soul not to know. For a while! Just to let the evening wear on and see what I think of this person without knowing what he does and how successful he is, or what a failure. We're ranking everybody every minute of the day.

Arthur Miller#17

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Success can limit freedom by making career identity the default social metric.
In plain terms
Being successful stops you from having real choice because people judge you by it.
What can you take from it?
Social ranking by success reduces authentic connection.

Where it applies

  • navigating social interactions
  • critiquing ambition
  • seeking connection

Putting it to work

  • avoiding status-driven conversations
  • valuing people over roles

Questions to consider

  • What defines you beyond work?
  • How do you meet people?

Another view

Success can also provide resources that increase freedom.

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