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My argument with so much as psychoanalysis is the preconception that suffering is a mistake, or a sign of weakness, or a sign even of illness, when in fact, possibly the greatest truths we know have come out of people's suffering; that the problem is not to undo suffering or to wipe it off the face of the earth but to make it inform our lives, instead of trying to cure ourselves of it constantly and avoid it, and avoid anything but that lobotomized sense of what they call 'happiness.' There's too much of an attempt, it seems to me, to think in terms of controlling man, rather than freeing him. Of defining him rather than letting him go. It's part of the whole ideology of this age, which is power-mad.

Arthur Miller#32

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Miller argues that suffering often produces deep truths and that society should accept it rather than trying to eliminate it.
In plain terms
Suffering teaches us important lessons so we should use it instead of avoiding it.
What can you take from it?
Embrace suffering as a source of wisdom rather than trying to cure it.

Where it applies

  • self-help culture
  • dealing with grief
  • personal development

Putting it to work

  • learn from hardship
  • avoid toxic positivity
  • reflect on pain

Questions to consider

  • What has suffering taught you?
  • Is pain necessary for growth?

Another view

Not all suffering leads to growth or truth.

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