He had never disagreed with anyone in his life, no matter how unfairly they may have treated him. He preferred to swallow his tears, suppress his anger and bitterness; he would bear anything rather than oppose a person directly. Nor did it ever occur to him to wonder whether this forbearance might not be harmful to others.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- A person who never disagrees or expresses anger may avoid conflict but harms others by being passive.
- In plain terms
- Never fighting back can hurt others because you do not oppose bad actions.
- What can you take from it?
- Conflict avoidance can enable harm to others.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- When is silence harmful?
- What is the cost of politeness?
Another view
Some traditions value forbearance as a virtue.
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