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What does it mean?
Children can sense hidden anger from parents and fear the unexpressed emotion more than open anger.
In plain terms
Kids fear hidden anger more than anger they can see.
What can you take from it?
Expressing anger openly is less scary than hiding it.

Where it applies

  • family tension
  • emotional regulation

Putting it to work

  • communicate feelings honestly
  • avoid passive aggression

Questions to consider

  • How do you handle anger at home?
  • What do you fear most from adults?

Another view

It assumes children always accurately interpret adult emotions.

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