In strong families, positive strokes out-number negative broadsides by a wide margin. Members regularly express appreciation: 'Thanks for fixing the drainpipe.' 'You look so nice in that dress.' 'The dinner was great.' Criticism is offered gently. After all, strong families figure, if we can be kind to strangers, why not to one another?
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Strong families maintain a high ratio of positive interactions to criticism and treat each other kindly.
- In plain terms
- Healthy families give more praise than criticism and are kind to each other.
- What can you take from it?
- Focus on positive interactions in family life.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- How often do you praise family members?
- Is your feedback constructive?
Another view
Positive feedback without addressing real issues can sometimes hinder growth.
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