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I have no perfect panacea for human ills. And even if I had I would not attempt to present a system of philosophy between the soup and fish, but this much I will say: The distinctively modern custom of marital bundling is the doom of chivalry and death of passion. It wears all tender sentiment to a napless warp, and no wonder is it that the novelist, without he has a seared and bitter heart, hesitates to follow the couple beyond the church door. There is no greater reproach to our civilization than the sight of men joking the boy whose heart is pierced by the first rays of a life-giving sun, or of our expecting a girl to blush because she is twice God's child today she was yesterday. [Pg. 57.]

Elbert Hubbard#12

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Modern courtship habits kill true romance and chivalry, leaving novelists to depict only the start of marriage.
In plain terms
Rigid modern dating customs destroy passion and make real marriage stories hard to write.
What can you take from it?
Authentic connection matters more than social rituals in relationships.

Where it applies

  • relationship advice
  • literary analysis
  • social commentary

Putting it to work

  • critique modern dating
  • write realistic romance
  • value authentic connection

Questions to consider

  • What rituals currently shape your view of marriage?
  • How has modern dating changed passion?

Another view

The term marital bundling is archaic and may confuse modern readers.

More from Elbert Hubbard

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  2. It is only life and love that give love and life. [Pg. 40.]

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