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To me who dreamed so much as a child, who made a dreamworld in which I was the heroine of an unending story, the lives of people around me continued to have a certain storybook quality. I learned something which has stood me in good stead many times - The most important thing in any relationship is not what you get but what you give.

Eleanor Roosevelt#5

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About this quote

What does it mean?
The most important part of a relationship is giving rather than receiving.
In plain terms
Focus on what you give in a relationship not what you get.
What can you take from it?
Prioritize giving over getting in relationships.

Where it applies

  • friendship
  • marriage
  • family dynamics

Putting it to work

  • prioritize giving
  • evaluate relationship balance

Questions to consider

  • Is balance necessary in giving?
  • Can receiving be as valuable?

Another view

One-sided relationships where one person only gives can be unhealthy.

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