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What does it mean?
It’s not events themselves that disturb us, but our interpretation of them.
In plain terms
Our view of events, not the events, unsettles us.
What can you take from it?
Change your perspective to reduce distress.

Where it applies

  • conflict
  • loss

Putting it to work

  • reframe thoughts
  • cognitive restructuring

Questions to consider

  • How often do you examine your interpretations?
  • Can you separate feeling from fact?

Another view

Some events have objective harmful impacts regardless of view.

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