The desire to belong is partly a desire to lose oneself.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Wanting to belong often involves sacrificing individual identity to fit in with a group.
- In plain terms
- We sometimes want to join a group so much that we forget who we are.
- What can you take from it?
- Balance the need for connection with the preservation of self.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- What parts of yourself do you hide to fit in?
- Where do you feel you belong?
Another view
Belonging is also a fundamental human need for survival and well-being.
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