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What does it mean?
Avoiding grief at all costs leads to total detachment. This detachment prevents experiencing happiness as well.
In plain terms
Avoiding grief stops you from feeling happiness.
What can you take from it?
Emotional detachment protects against pain and joy.

Where it applies

  • personal coping
  • psychological advice
  • life reflection

Putting it to work

  • accept grief
  • avoid total detachment

Questions to consider

  • Is it possible to avoid grief?
  • What is the cost of detachment?

Another view

It does not account for severe trauma.

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