The narcissistic, the domineering, the possessive woman can succeed in being a 'loving' mother as long as the child is small. Only the really loving woman, the woman who is happier in giving than in taking, who is firmly rooted in her own existence, can be a loving mother when the child is in the process of separation.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Possessive mothers can only pretend to love when children are small. True love is giving and requires the mother to be independent and rooted in herself.
- In plain terms
- Real loving mothers give freely and are independent, unlike possessive ones who control.
- What can you take from it?
- Be a parent who gives, not one who takes or controls.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- Are you giving to your children or taking from them?
- How rooted are you in your own existence?
Another view
Some parents may struggle to be independent for valid reasons.
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