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What does it mean?
Pessoa suggests that regret over things that never happened hurts more than regret over actual events.
In plain terms
The pain of wishing you had done things that never happened is worse than regretting real choices.
What can you take from it?
Let go of what never happened to reduce unnecessary pain.

Where it applies

  • decision making
  • life review
  • mourning

Putting it to work

  • focusing on present
  • accepting limits
  • reducing what-ifs

Questions to consider

  • What unrealized paths haunt you?
  • How do you handle missed opportunities?

Another view

Acknowledging unrealized potential can be important for motivation.

More from Fernando Pessoa

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  3. The superiority of the dreamer is that dreaming is much more practical than living, and that the dreamer extracts from life a much vaster and varied pleasure t…

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