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Nothing can well be imagined more painful than the present position of woman, unless, on the one hand, she renounces all outward activity and keeps herself within the magic sphere, the bubble of her dreams; or, on the other, surrendering all aspiration, she gives herself to her real life, soul and body. For those to whom it is possible, the latter is best; for out of activity may come thought, out of mere aspiration can come nothing,

Florence Nightingale#51

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Women face a difficult choice between withdrawing from public life or engaging in it fully; activity is better than mere aspiration.
In plain terms
Women must choose between hiding in dreams or engaging in real life; doing something is better than just wishing.
What can you take from it?
Engage in real activity rather than just dreaming or withdrawing from life.

Where it applies

  • career choices
  • social reform
  • personal growth

Putting it to work

  • take on active roles
  • avoid passive dreaming
  • seek meaningful work

Questions to consider

  • Are you engaging in real activity or just aspiring?
  • What limits your outward activity?

Another view

Some circumstances may legitimately limit outward activity.

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