Nous aimons toujours ceux qui nous admirent; et nous n'aimons pas toujours ceux que nous admirons.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- People tend to love those who admire them, but not necessarily those they admire themselves. Flattery feeds ego more than admiration inspires affection.
- In plain terms
- We like those who praise us more than those we praise.
- What can you take from it?
- Ego-driven relationships favor flattery over respect.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- Why do we crave admiration?
- Can true admiration exist without love?
Another view
Some admire others deeply without expecting love in return.
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