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We are as forlorn as children lost in the wood. When you stand in front of me an look at me, what do you know of the grief's that are in me and what do I know of yours. And if I were to cast myself down before you and tell you, what more would you know about me that you know about Hell when someone tells you it is hot and dreadful? For that reason alone we human beings ought to stand before one another as reverently, as reflectively, as lovingly, as we would before the entrance to Hell.

Franz Kafka#114

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Human beings cannot fully know each other's inner grief, so we should treat each other with deep reverence and caution.
In plain terms
We cannot know each other's pain so we should be very respectful.
What can you take from it?
Respect others deeply because you cannot truly know their suffering.

Where it applies

  • interpersonal relationships
  • conflict resolution

Putting it to work

  • practice humility in interactions

Questions to consider

  • How do you show reverence?
  • Can we ever know another's pain?

Another view

Constant reverence might inhibit honest and vulnerable communication.

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