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'I see you are looking at my feet,' he said to her when car was in motion. 'I beg your pardon?' said the woman. 'I said I see you're looking at my feet'. 'I beg your pardon. I happened to be looking at the floor,' said the woman, and faced the doors of the car. 'If you want to look at my feet, say so,' said the young man. 'But don't be a God-damned sneak about it.' 'Let me out here, please,' the woman said quickly to the girl operating the car. The car doors opened and the woman got out without looking back. 'I have two normal feet and I can't see the slightest God-damned reason why anybody should stare at them,' said the young man.

J. D. Salinger#4

TruthConfrontationEtiquettePolitenessSocial interactionSocial normsWar

About this quote

What does it mean?
The young man demands honesty instead of polite avoidance when accused of staring.
In plain terms
Be direct about your actions rather than acting secretly.
What can you take from it?
Say what you mean instead of hiding your intentions.

Where it applies

  • public interaction
  • conflict
  • social awkwardness

Putting it to work

  • speak directly
  • avoid passive behavior
  • respect others

Questions to consider

  • When do you hide your true intentions?
  • Is politeness worth the deception?

Another view

Directness can sometimes escalate conflict unnecessarily.

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