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I bumped into a woman I hadn't seen for nearly three years. The first thing she said to me? 'You've lost a lot of weight since the last time I saw you!' 'Well,' I said, slightly nonplussed, 'the last time you saw me I'd just had a baby.' What I felt like saying was, 'I've produced my third child and my sixth novel since I last saw you. Aren't either of those things more important, more interesting, than my size?' But no - my waist looked smaller! Forget the kid and the book: finally, something to celebrate!

J.K. Rowling#4

AppearanceCommentarySocietySuccessValue

About this quote

What does it mean?
People focus on superficial physical changes over significant life achievements.
In plain terms
Comments on weight matter more than having kids or writing books.
What can you take from it?
Appearance often overshadows substance in casual talk.

Where it applies

  • receiving compliments
  • body image
  • family life

Putting it to work

  • ignoring shallow praise
  • reframing compliments
  • setting boundaries

Questions to consider

  • What gets praised over what matters?
  • How do you value your own growth?

Another view

Assuming achievements are obvious can frustrate others.

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