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What does it mean?
Love is portrayed as a difficult process of growth and conflict.
In plain terms
Love involves struggle and change not just romance.
What can you take from it?
Real love requires effort and personal development.

Where it applies

  • relationships
  • personal development
  • emotional maturity

Putting it to work

  • expect challenges in love
  • grow through conflict
  • value effort

Questions to consider

  • Is love a battle or a gift?
  • How does love change you?

Another view

This view emphasizes pain over joy in love.

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