In the early years, you fight because you don't understand each other. In the later years, you fight because you do.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Early relationship conflicts stem from misunderstanding; later ones stem from deep understanding of flaws.
- In plain terms
- You fight more when you know each other better.
- What can you take from it?
- Understand that deeper intimacy brings deeper conflict.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- Why do you fight with people you know well?
- How does understanding change conflict?
Another view
Some relationships improve over time without increased fighting.
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