We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- The quote warns that pretending to be something shapes who we become, so we must choose our pretenses carefully.
- In plain terms
- What we pretend to be becomes who we are, so choose carefully.
- What can you take from it?
- Your pretenses shape your identity over time.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- How much do roles define us?
- Is pretense always bad?
Another view
We can change roles and still stay authentic.
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