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Now Miss Lucy, you will hear what Mother thinks about your Public Speaking. Mother said she had rather you would marry and have a pair [of] twin babies every year. She did not say how many years. Mother cannot bear to think of your Preaching or Lecturing. She thinks it is a wrong course for you to take, says if you go to Lecturing you will fix it so you can't keep school. Mother wants you should Teach, she thinks you would do the most good that way. You will want to know [my] mind. I don't know what to tell you. You know it will make much talk in our quarter of the World. You will do that which seems right in your own eyes. I suppose, to be honest, I like mother's plan better than yours. You are of age to [do] that which you think is your duty. Mother says she cannot find no place where Christ ever sent Women to Preach. We shall want to hear from you as soon as you get this, you will write what you think about Mother's plan.

Lucy Stone#41

MarriageCareerFamilyGender rolesPublic speaking19th century

About this quote

What does it mean?
A family member expresses disapproval of Stone's public speaking, preferring traditional domestic roles for women.
In plain terms
Her family wanted her to marry and stay home instead of lecturing.
What can you take from it?
Public advocacy often clashes with family expectations.

Where it applies

  • career decisions
  • family conflicts
  • historical research

Putting it to work

  • weigh personal duty against public good
  • expect social backlash

Questions to consider

  • How do you balance family wishes with personal calling?
  • What defines a 'good' life for a woman?

Another view

The letter reflects personal bias rather than universal family sentiment of the era.

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