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The institution of marriage in all societies is a pattern within which the strains put by civilization on males and females alike must be resolved, a pattern within which men must learn, in return for a variety of elaborate rewards, new forms in which sexual spontaneity is still possible, and women must learn to discipline their receptivity to a thousand other considerations.

Margaret Mead#53

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Marriage acts as a social structure where men and women negotiate personal desires against societal expectations and responsibilities.
In plain terms
Marriage helps balance personal freedom with social duties for both partners.
What can you take from it?
Marriage requires compromise between personal desires and social duties.

Where it applies

  • sociological studies
  • relationship counseling
  • cultural analysis

Putting it to work

  • understanding marital conflict
  • analyzing gender norms
  • family planning

Questions to consider

  • How does marriage shape personal identity?
  • Is spontaneity possible within structured roles?

Another view

This view frames marriage as a constraint rather than a mutual partnership.

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  3. Thanks to television, for the first time the young are seeing history made before it is censored by their elders.

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