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What does it mean?
Love is described as deep when it is for someone who reflects your own deepest sorrow.
In plain terms
You love her because she reminds you of your sadness.
What can you take from it?
Shared sorrow deepens love.

Where it applies

  • when falling in love
  • in shared grief
  • during emotional bonding

Putting it to work

  • connect through shared pain
  • understand partner's sorrow

Questions to consider

  • How does pain shape your love?
  • Who reflects your sorrow?

Another view

It romanticizes pain in relationships.

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