You don't love him, you don't know how to love people. You only know how to own them. And because people will never act just like you want them too... You'll always feel betrayed. And because everybody dies, you'll always feel cheated. But you're the cheat... You're the one who uses our love for you to try to control us.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- The speaker argues that controlling people through ownership is not love and leads to inevitable betrayal.
- In plain terms
- You only know how to own people, which makes you feel cheated when they die or disobey.
- What can you take from it?
- Love involves freedom; controlling others is not love.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- Is control ever part of love?
- How do you show respect?
Another view
Some relationships involve mutual agreement on control that this overlooks.
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