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How I wish you could have kept on living a life of joy. But no one can. Language comes to us, and with it lies and threats, cruelty and disappointment. You walk, and those steps lead you outside the shelter of your home. To keep the joy of childhood you would have to die as a child, or live as one, never becoming a man, never growing. So I can grieve for the lost child, and yet not regret the good man braced with pain and riven with guilt, who yet was kind to me and many others, and whom I loved, and whom I also almost knew. Almost, almost knew

Orson Scott Card#209

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Growing up means losing childhood joy, but adulthood brings a different kind of value through pain and kindness.
In plain terms
You cannot stay a child forever, so we grieve the loss but value the adult.
What can you take from it?
Growth involves trade-offs between innocence and experience.

Where it applies

  • aging
  • parenting
  • personal loss

Putting it to work

  • honor past selves
  • value adult virtues

Questions to consider

  • What did you gain by growing up?

Another view

Some people argue childhood is not always a time of joy.

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