Maybe what we really want is for our children to be the dominant ones! Maybe I'm trying to see my own ambitions fulfilled in them, and that would be wrong, so I should be content with what they are.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- The speaker questions if parental ambition for children is selfish and suggests acceptance instead.
- In plain terms
- Maybe we want kids to succeed as we didn't, which is wrong, so we should just accept them.
- What can you take from it?
- Parents should accept children for who they are rather than for their ambitions.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- Where does ambition end and control begin?
- Is it wrong to hope for your child's success?
Another view
The distinction between ambition and expectation is blurred here.
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