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What does it mean?
Restraint can be a choice rather than a lack of capability.
In plain terms
The speaker could hurt the other person but chose not to.
What can you take from it?
Nonviolence can be a choice.

Where it applies

  • confrontation
  • negotiation

Putting it to work

  • managing anger
  • setting boundaries

Questions to consider

  • Is restraint always a choice?
  • When is it okay to threaten?

Another view

It may be blustering to mask fear.

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