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This is the way the paths of our lives entwine and cross and go apart: if she sent for him the day before, even then he might have loved her. But she did not send for him until she was afraid; she was not afraid until he undid her work; he did not undo her work until he was past loving her. If only we could stand outside our lives and look at what we do, we might repair so many injuries before they're done

Orson Scott Card#613

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Timing and fear often prevent us from fixing mistakes until it is too late.
In plain terms
People often wait until they are afraid to reach out, by which time it is too late to fix things.
What can you take from it?
Act early before fear ruins chances.

Where it applies

  • relationships
  • career
  • decisions

Putting it to work

  • acting sooner
  • overcoming fear
  • repairing bonds

Questions to consider

  • What are you waiting for?
  • When do you act on fear?

Another view

Sometimes timing is out of your control.

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