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What does it mean?
A plea for acceptance and identity validation through behavior.
In plain terms
Can I be accepted if I am good?
What can you take from it?
Acceptance is often tied to behavior.

Where it applies

  • family dynamics
  • social pressure
  • childhood

Putting it to work

  • identity work
  • communication

Questions to consider

  • What makes you real?
  • Do you need to be good to be loved?

Another view

It equates worth with performance.

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