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What does it mean?
It presents a binary choice between maintaining relationships or having none at all.
In plain terms
You must choose to live together or be apart.
What can you take from it?
Relationships require mutual existence to persist.

Where it applies

  • conflict resolution
  • diplomacy
  • friendship

Putting it to work

  • negotiate terms
  • avoid isolation

Questions to consider

  • What does co-existence require from you?
  • Is non-existence ever a valid option?

Another view

It oversimplifies complex social dynamics into a single choice.

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