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What does it mean?
Adaptation works both ways; sometimes society adapts to the individual.
In plain terms
Others should adapt to me, not vice versa.
What can you take from it?
Insist on being understood instead of changing.

Where it applies

  • social dynamics
  • conflict
  • friendship

Putting it to work

  • assert boundaries
  • reject conformity

Questions to consider

  • Who should adapt to whom?
  • Is conformity necessary?

Another view

Refusing to adapt can isolate you.

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