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What does it mean?
People see their own projections or surroundings when they look at the author, not his true self. He feels invisible or misunderstood by those around him.
In plain terms
People see themselves in me instead of seeing who I really am.
What can you take from it?
Recognize that others may project their own views onto you.

Where it applies

  • social interactions
  • public scrutiny
  • identity struggle

Putting it to work

  • asserting boundaries
  • self-affirmation

Questions to consider

  • Do people see the real you?
  • How do you handle being misunderstood?

Another view

It can be exhausting to constantly prove your existence to others.

More from Ralph Ellison

  1. Like the bodiless heads you see sometimes in circus sideshows, it is as though I have been surrounded by mirrors of hard, distorting glass.

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  2. It is sometimes advantageous to be unseen, although it is most often rather wearing on the nerves.

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  3. Play the game, but don't believe in it.

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