That Elizabeth-Jane Farfrae be not told of my death, or made to grieve on account of me. And that I be not bury'd in consecrated ground. And that no sexton be asked to toll the bell. And that nobody is wished to see my dead body. And that no murners walk behind me at my funeral. And that no flours be planted on my grave. And that no man remember me.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- The speaker requests a completely private death with no mourners, burial rites, or memory left behind.
- In plain terms
- Do not tell Elizabeth-Jane about my death, do not bury me in holy ground, and let no one remember me.
- What can you take from it?
- Seek a quiet exit without burdening others with grief or ceremony.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- Why might someone wish to be forgotten?
- What does this say about the speaker's view of love?
Another view
This request contradicts the human need for closure and community support after loss.
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