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Life for both sexes - and I looked at them, shouldering their way along the pavement - is arduous, difficult, a perpetual struggle. It calls for gigantic courage and strength. More than anything, perhaps, creatures of illusion as we are, it calls for confidence in oneself. Without self-confidence we are as babes in the cradle. And how can we generate this imponderable quality, which is yet so invaluable, most quickly? By thinking that other people are inferior to one self. By feeling that one has some innate superiority - it may be wealth, or rank, a straight nose, or the portrait of a grandfather by Romney - for there is no end to the pathetic devices of the human imagination - over other people.

Virginia Woolf#19

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Woolf argues life is a struggle that requires confidence, but self-confidence often comes from imagining oneself superior to others.
In plain terms
Life is hard and needs confidence, but we fake confidence by thinking we are better than others.
What can you take from it?
Find genuine confidence without putting others down.

Where it applies

  • personal development
  • leadership
  • self esteem

Putting it to work

  • building healthy confidence
  • recognizing ego

Questions to consider

  • Where does your confidence come from?
  • Is ego necessary?

Another view

It suggests self-confidence is always built on false superiority.

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