The sorrow for the dead is the only sorrow from which we refuse to be divorced. Every other wound we seek to heal - every other affliction to forget: but this wound we consider it a duty to keep open - this affliction we cherish and brood over in solitude.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Grief for the dead is unique because we choose to keep it alive rather than move on. It is a cherished sorrow that defines our memory of them.
- In plain terms
- We hold onto grief for the dead while trying to heal from other pains.
- What can you take from it?
- Memorializing loss is a deliberate act of love.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- What does keeping a wound open cost you?
- Why do we value some losses more than others?
Another view
Some may argue that holding onto grief prevents healthy healing.
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