In America a woman loses her independence for ever in the bonds of matrimony. While there is less constraint on girls there than anywhere else, a wife submits to stricter obligations. For the former, her father's house is a home of freedom and pleasure; for the latter, her husband's is almost a cloister.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Tocqueville argues American women gain freedom as girls but lose independence after marriage.
- In plain terms
- American women are free when single but face strict duties when married.
- What can you take from it?
- Marriage traditionally restricted women's independence in 19th century America.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- How has marriage changed for women?
- What defines independence?
Another view
Modern marriage often allows more shared independence.
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