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Pride is an established conviction of one's own paramount worth in some particular respect, while vanity is the desire of rousing such a conviction in others, and it is generally accompanied by the secret hope of ultimately coming to the same conviction oneself. Pride works from within; it is the direct appreciation of oneself. Vanity is the desire to arrive at this appreciation indirectly, from without.

Arthur Schopenhauer#23

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Pride is self‑appreciation of one's worth; vanity seeks that appreciation from others, often hoping to feel it oneself eventually.
In plain terms
Pride is internal, vanity seeks external validation.
What can you take from it?
Distinguish genuine self‑respect from seeking praise.

Where it applies

  • personal development
  • social media usage

Putting it to work

  • cultivate intrinsic confidence
  • limit reliance on external approval

Questions to consider

  • When does pride become arrogance?
  • How can one recognize vanity in oneself?

Another view

The distinction can blur in real situations.

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