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I can no more disown him than I can disown the black community. I can no more disown him than I can my white grandmother - a woman who helped raise me, a woman who sacrificed again and again for me, a woman who loves me as much as she loves anything in this world, but a woman who once confessed her fear of black men who passed by her on the street, and who on more than one occasion has uttered racial or ethnic stereotypes that made me cringe.

Barack Obama#50

RaceIdentityFamilySocietyComplexity

About this quote

What does it mean?
Obama describes complex racial tensions within his own family connections.
In plain terms
He relates to family members who hold racist views yet love him.
What can you take from it?
Acknowledge complexity in relationships despite differences.

Where it applies

  • personal reflection
  • racial dialogue
  • family discussions

Putting it to work

  • navigate tough relationships
  • address bias privately
  • accept complexity

Questions to consider

  • How do you handle loved ones with bigoted views?
  • What role does family play in shaping worldview?

Another view

It risks personalizing systemic issues of racism.

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