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What does it mean?
In love people often seek a safe space where they receive admiration and praise even when they are not deserving.
In plain terms
Lovers want a refuge that flatters them regardless of merit.
What can you take from it?
Seek authentic connection rather than flattering illusion.

Where it applies

  • new relationships
  • dating apps

Putting it to work

  • communicate honestly
  • set realistic expectations

Questions to consider

  • Am I looking for validation or genuine partnership?
  • How can I give honest praise?

Another view

Some level of reassurance is natural and can be supportive.

More from Bertrand Russell

  1. If all our happiness is bound up entirely in our personal circumstances it is difficult not to demand of life more than it has to give.

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  2. To be able to fill leisure intelligently is the last product of civilization, and at present very few people have reached this level.

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  3. A sense of duty is useful in work but offensive in personal relations. People wish to be liked, not to be endured with patient resignation.

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