Many people when they fall in love look for a little haven of refuge from the world, where they can be sure of being admired when they are not admirable, and praised when they are not praiseworthy.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- In love people often seek a safe space where they receive admiration and praise even when they are not deserving.
- In plain terms
- Lovers want a refuge that flatters them regardless of merit.
- What can you take from it?
- Seek authentic connection rather than flattering illusion.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- Am I looking for validation or genuine partnership?
- How can I give honest praise?
Another view
Some level of reassurance is natural and can be supportive.
More from Bertrand Russell
If all our happiness is bound up entirely in our personal circumstances it is difficult not to demand of life more than it has to give.
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