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Need-love cries to God from our poverty; Gift-love longs to serve, or even to suffer for, God; Appreciative love says: 'We give thanks to thee for thy great glory.' Need-love says of a woman 'I cannot live without her'; Gift-love longs to give her happiness, comfort, protection - if possible, wealth; Appreciative love gazes and holds its breath and is silent, rejoices that such a wonder should exist even if not for him, will not be wholly dejected by losing her, would rather have it so than never to have seen her at all.

C. S. Lewis#164

FaithLoveEmotionGratitudePovertyService

About this quote

What does it mean?
Need-love seeks from poverty, Gift-love serves God, and Appreciative love thanks God for existence.
In plain terms
Need-love asks God for help, Gift-love serves, and Appreciative love thanks Him.
What can you take from it?
Love takes different forms: needing, giving, and appreciating.

Where it applies

  • categorizing emotions
  • discussing theology
  • reflecting on relationships

Putting it to work

  • understanding love
  • practicing gratitude
  • reflecting on faith

Questions to consider

  • Which love is strongest?
  • Can you have both?

Another view

The categories may overlap in practice.

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