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Critics who treat adult as a term of approval, instead of as a merely descriptive term, cannot be adult themselves. To be concerned about being grown up, to admire the grown up because it is grown up, to blush at the suspicion of being childish; these things are the marks of childhood and adolescence. And in childhood and adolescence they are, in moderation, healthy symptoms. Young things ought to want to grow. But to carry on into middle life or even into early manhood this concern about being adult is a mark of really arrested development. When I was ten, I read fairy tales in secret and would have been ashamed if I had been found doing so. Now that I am fifty I read them openly. When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up.

C. S. Lewis#6

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About this quote

What does it mean?
True maturity involves accepting one's stage of life without obsessing over appearing grown-up, which is actually a sign of arrested development.
In plain terms
Worrying about being adult means you aren't truly mature yet.
What can you take from it?
Embrace your current stage of life without fear of being childish.

Where it applies

  • middle age reflection
  • parenting
  • self-improvement

Putting it to work

  • accept childhood interests
  • stop fearing immaturity

Questions to consider

  • What childhood things do you still enjoy?
  • Why do you fear being seen as childish?

Another view

Some concern for responsibility is necessary for healthy adulthood.

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