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What does it mean?
It might be gentle to alternate between being a victim and a perpetrator.
In plain terms
Switching roles between suffering and causing suffering could be soothing.
What can you take from it?
Balance power and vulnerability.

Where it applies

  • conflict resolution
  • personal relationships
  • justice work

Putting it to work

  • reflect on actions
  • share responsibility
  • practice forgiveness

Questions to consider

  • What does alternating roles teach about empathy?
  • Is it healthy to seek both victim and aggressor positions?

Another view

It risks justifying harmful behavior.

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