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What does it mean?
Misunderstanding causes pain, but being fully understood would cause even greater suffering.
In plain terms
Misunderstanding hurts but being fully understood hurts more.
What can you take from it?
Avoid deep scrutiny if it causes more pain than being misunderstood.

Where it applies

  • personal relationships
  • public life
  • introspection

Putting it to work

  • protect privacy
  • accept ambiguity

Questions to consider

  • Is it better to be right or understood?
  • What does being fully known cost?

Another view

Being understood can also bring relief and connection.

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