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Thus ended our little talk: yet it left a pleasant impression. True, the subject was strange enough; my sisters might have been shocked at it; and at my freedom in asking and giving opinions. But oh! the blessing it is to have a friend to whom one can speak fearlessly on any subject; with whom one's deepest as well as one's most foolish thoughts come out simply and safely. Oh, the comfort - the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person - having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are, chaff and grain together; certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then with the breath of kindness blow the rest away. Somebody must have done a good deal of the winnowing business this afternoon; for in the course of it I gave him as much nonsense as any reasonable man could stand ...

Dinah Craik#44

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About this quote

What does it mean?
True friendship allows safe, unfiltered expression where thoughts are valued without judgment.
In plain terms
A good friend lets you speak freely without fear.
What can you take from it?
Seek relationships where you can be honest.

Where it applies

  • close friendships
  • therapy
  • confidants

Putting it to work

  • build safe spaces
  • practice honest sharing

Questions to consider

  • Who can you speak fearlessly to?
  • How safe do you feel sharing thoughts?

Another view

Not all friends can handle full honesty.

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