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Thus ended our little talk: yet it left a pleasant impression. True, the subject was strange enough; my sisters might have been shocked at it; and at my freedom in asking and giving opinions. But oh! the blessing it is to have a friend to whom one can speak fearlessly on any subject; with whom one's deepest as well as one's most foolish thoughts come out simply and safely. Oh, the comfort - the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person - having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are, chaff and grain together; certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then with the breath of kindness blow the rest away. Somebody must have done a good deal of the winnowing business this afternoon; for in the course of it I gave him as much nonsense as any reasonable man could stand ...

Dinah Maria Mulock#44

PsychologyRelationshipsCommunicationFriendshipTrust

About this quote

What does it mean?
A true friend lets you speak freely, trusting they will keep what matters and let go of the rest.
In plain terms
Friendship offers safe, honest expression.
What can you take from it?
Value friends who listen without judgment.

Where it applies

  • confiding
  • sharing ideas

Putting it to work

  • cultivate supportive relationships

Questions to consider

  • How do you know a friend is truly safe?

Another view

Not all friends provide that level of safety.

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