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What does it mean?
People prefer feeling smart to actually thinking critically.
In plain terms
Flattery makes people like you; real thinking makes them hate you.
What can you take from it?
Avoid challenging people too deeply.

Where it applies

  • teaching
  • leadership
  • debate

Putting it to work

  • balance challenge with comfort
  • build trust first
  • expect resistance

Questions to consider

  • Do people prefer comfort over truth?
  • How do you teach others?

Another view

Some people appreciate being challenged to think.

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