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I believe in the separation of sex and state. I also believe that social benefits like health insurance should not be privileges bestowed by marital status but should be available to all as individuals. Marriage, in the sense of a ceremonial commitment of people to merge their lives, is properly a social ritual reflecting religious or personal conviction, and should not have legal status. 'Sanctity' is a religious category that is, or ought to be, irrelevant to secular law. The purpose of civil unions should be to establish parental rights and responsibilities, grant next-of-kin status for such purposes as medical decisions and insure equity in matters of property distribution and taxes. Such unions should be available to any two - or more - adults, regardless of gender.

Ellen Willis#27

SecularismFamilyLawLgbtqMarriage

About this quote

What does it mean?
The author separates sex from state, arguing civil unions should grant legal rights to any adults regardless of gender, while marriage remains a religious or personal ritual without legal status.
In plain terms
Civil unions should give legal rights to all adults, not marriage.
What can you take from it?
Support civil unions as a secular legal framework.

Where it applies

  • legislative reform
  • LGBTQ+ rights
  • public policy

Putting it to work

  • advocate for inclusive civil union laws

Questions to consider

  • How does separating marriage from law affect society?
  • What are the benefits of universal civil unions?

Another view

Some view marriage as essential for social stability and child-rearing.

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