'My brother ought not to have treated me thus.' True: but he must see to that. However he may treat me, I must deal rightly by him. This is what lies with me, what none can hinder. (97)
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Even if someone mistreats you, you must respond rightly; your own conduct cannot be hindered.
- In plain terms
- Respond correctly regardless of how others act toward you.
- What can you take from it?
- Your behavior is your own responsibility.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- How do you stay virtuous under mistreatment?
- When is self-protection justified?
Another view
Sometimes responding rightly may be impractical in hostile environments.
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